Whether you are an expert of self-pleasure or you are still exploring and figuring out the mechanics of your most sensitive spots, we at CherryDTV recommend a regular dose masturbation. In the past, self-pleasure has been regarded as dirty, sinful and that it shouldn’t be talked about. If you were brave enough to ask your parents or grand-parents about sex and self-pleasure they probably would have regurgitated old wives’ tales and misinformation they absorbed as a youngster.
Thankfully, times have changed and sexual wellness culture is de-stigmatising sex and re-informing the public’s opinion about the reality behind one of the most natural forms or personal wellness, self-pleasure. For your pleasure, we have compiled a list of our favourite reasons to self-pleasure and love yourself daily. Check it out and schedule yourself a date with the big O!
Self-Pleasure makes you happier
The pleasure you feel when you touch yourself originates within your sexiest organ, the brain. Self-pleasure activates and releases all sorts of feel-good chemicals like, serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin (the love hormone.) The value of these neurotransmitters for your mental and physical wellness are endless. The warm, fuzzy feelings you experience as you come down from the high of climax are perfect for setting the scene for relaxing day. Self-pleasure is a great, all-natural cure for life’s little ailments.
Self-Pleasure relieves stress and helps you relax
Sex with a lover is fun but it can be stressful in ways that self-pleasure is not. Playing with yourself by yourself means you won’t have to worry about meeting any expectations or feel any pressure to perform. There is only you and your pleasure. Similar to regular exercise, regular masturbation encourages a more restful sleep because the release of endorphins acts as a natural sedative which helps you relax. If you’re having trouble falling asleep, try masturbation!
Masturbation can increase self awareness and confidence
Masturbation is a way to get in touch with your body and learn what turns you on.
Most people actually don’t know what types of touch their body enjoys well enough to relay that information to a partner. Masturbating allows you to explore what touches, pressures, intensities, and strokes your body responds too. We suggest getting a mirror, some lube, and watching as you touch yourself. That way you can connect the sensation to the exact part of your vulva. When you get down there, don’t rush right to your clit, vagina or penis.
Stroke, squeeze, and massage the outer areas. Massage and apply pressure to your pubic mound. Really explore the entire area of your genitals. If you have a penis, go beyond just stroking your shaft. Explore the pleasure potential of your stroking, tapping, squeezing, applying pressure to your balls, perineum, anus, and head and discovering what feels good.
Masturbating is essential for developing self-awareness, body-awareness, self-acceptance, and confidence,” Obviously, this translates in the bedroom. I’ve seen a regular masturbation practice give someone the confidence they never had before to ask for a raise, ask someone out, and more. Masturbating is very powerful indeed.
Masturbation relieves period cramps
Biologically speaking, when you get your period, you’re shedding something called your endometrial lining. Sometimes the uterus (which is a muscle) contracts to help this process along, which can result in some pretty uncomfortable cramps. But those previously mentioned feel-good neurotransmitters (dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin) you get from masturbating put up quite a fight against period cramps.
Self-pleasure strengthens your pelvic floor
An orgasm creates a series of muscle contractions in the pelvic floor, essentially, orgasming is like a mini workout for your pelvic floor. This diamond-shaped group of internal muscles work together to support our pelvic organs, including the vagina, uterus, bladder, and bowels.
If the pelvic floor muscles are weak, these organs can literally fall out of place, known as prolapse. Weak pelvic floor muscles are also associated with urinary and bowel incontinence (for instance, leaking every time you sneeze), lower back and pelvic floor pain, discomfort during penetrative sex for vulva owners, and constipation. Masturbating won’t heal these things, but it’s a great way to help prevent pelvic floor weakness.
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Self-Pleasure helps you discover what you like
If you don’t know how to touch yourself, how can expect anyone else too?
Remember when you first learnt how to ride a bike without training wheels?
At first it would have been wobbly and you probably took a few tumbles, but if it hadn’t been for your perseverance, you wouldn’t have been successful. You have to go through the fumbling stage of self-exploration and self-discovery to find out what makes your wheels turn. If you’re new to masturbation, don’t give up! It can feel a bit strange at first because it’s a new experience for you. Don’t allow your thoughts to be swayed by propaganda and misinformation you might have heard as a kid. We promise you that self-induced orgasms won’t ruin or desensitise you for partnered sex.
Explore different techniques of touching yourself, like tapping, rubbing, swirling, and massaging until you find what you enjoy the most. In addition, lovers aren’t mind readers.
If you know exactly how you like being touched you will be able to teach your lover how best to pleasure you. It takes good communication and a few bedroom lessons to get your partner into the groove of what gets you off.
It’s always the perfect time to fall in love with yourself
No matter how old you are, how many partners you’ve had or wherever you’re going in life, masturbation is one of the few activities you can never outgrow.
Even if you’re 80 years old and struggle to orgasm, there’s nothing stopping you from jumping online, getting yourself a vibrator and making up for lost years of orgasms.
Maybe you’re still a virgin and clamouring to understand what is so great about having an orgasm, and you’re not quite ready to take the plunge with a partner.
Either way, it’s never too soon or too late to treat yourself to the pleasure you deserve.
Always remember that the most important sexual relationship of your life starts and ends with you!