Online Dating can seem a bit daunting or even desperate for some, but many people have been successful in their quest for their “other half.” Enjoy these online dating profile tips that we hope will give you leverage!
And I am here to tell you that it CAN work.
Sure there is also the risk of having your heart broken when you are busy swiping away and not getting any swipes back but, you know what?
You deserve to be wanted and you don’t need a netball team to be swiping your photo right, you just need the right ONE.
So, if you’re about to dip a toe in these potentially stormy waters, what can you do to maximise your chances of success? And, what should you avoid?
Now is a good time to start taking some mental notes and then have a mini audit of your profile!
Online Dating Rules For Success – Know what you’re looking for!
Whether you’re taking online dating seriously or are a bit more laid-back just looking for a bit of fun, it’s a really smart idea to work out what exactly you are hoping to achieve from an online dating service.
Are you after true love?
Do you just want to see where it takes you?
Whatever it is, let that ideal be your guide when preparing.
Before you even download an app (I’m looking at you!) in fact, before you even open a website, you should be thinking about what it is you want – that will help guide you on what to put in your profile.
A good rule of thumb is to be your best self!
What does that even mean?
Well, be honest! Be you. It’s not only important to be honest with yourself, but also to those who are taking the time to check you out.
And guess what? It’s ok to be clear about your intentions and what you are looking for. In fact, you’ll find it is really respected! I think a lot of people looking for something casual feel like there is something wrong with them for wanting that.
Or there is a level of shame or guilt. There isn’t. It’s completely acceptable to only be
able to offer that right now.
Choose the right online dating app
There are a lot of different online dating services out there and they aren’t all the same. Some are pretty fast-paced (like the swipe-happy Tinder), others give women the control over who they speak with (Bumble)
There are even sites like TrekkieDating which – you guessed it – are aimed solely at Star Trek fanatics.
It’s good to shop around then: read reviews, ask friends for recommendations and their experiences on certain services.
PS- I recently came across a new dating site that didn’t pressure you into making a choice to swipe straight away. You could take your time to scroll swipe options and the app has higher security so less chance of being “catfished“. The Inner Circle
Pick your photos carefully for online dating
Every guy I have ever dated and taken photos of have always updated their dating profile with all the photos I took of them. They scored the attention of some great girls.
This one is really important because first impressions are everything, especially if someone is glancing at your picture, ready to swipe right and move on.
So, having a good first photo is really crucial. A head and shoulders shot of you, preferably taken in natural light.
Avoid having sunglasses on, that’s a no-no, we want to see your eyes! If you can’t see someone’s eyes you’re not going to look any further. Don’t wear a hat, don’t try to hide behind anything.
If your game and this is something you can talk to your buddies about, you should choose a picture your mates think you look really good in, even if you hate it.
Often they’re the real life, natural ones, not he posed ones! You might be laughing or not looking at the camera, but they give a vibe of who you are in a simple image! Make sure they aren’t blurry or poor quality either!
EXAMPLES OF DONT’S – ONLINE DATING TIPS
We all get it you want to fuck!!!!
BUT PLEASE… word it in a manner which isn’t so crude!!! Be metaphorical.
No girl, no matter what she is looking for online (whether it be the same thing-just to fuck) is wanting to know that (whether it be a joke to you)
1. That you don’t care to use protection with anyone you sleep with and are likely to have a STI.
2. That you also don’t care to knock a girl up.
This is awesome to see that this next guy is putting himself back out there and facing the online dating world.
Firstly, attention to detail in the spelling that goes in your bio.
Secondly, this image is a terrible option. A quarter of his face and a tattoo.
Who is that meant to impress or get the attention of (even if they like tattoos)
NO NO NO!!!
Do NOT be desperate and insinuate you only want to meet a girl so she can help you pick up other girls!!!!
WTF are you thinking!!!
Ask your mum, a friend, a sister, a co worker…. NOT a possible dating option.
PS yet again you can not see this persons face at all.
(This guy went travelling and this was the only good photo he took?)
ATTENTION TO DETAIL!!!
Even if you just want to have something casual, no girl wants to have a invite to a messy place.
Find some nice lighting, clean the space around you and set up a self timer or take a selfie.
Check out this “How to” for taking better selfies – CLICK HERE
Your bio is your friend
What you write in your bio is absolute key to letting people know who you are and what you’re all about. It can be bloody useful for those initial conversations when you first meet up in the flesh too!
You have to think of your profile as your dating CV.
Spend some time writing about the things you love and what sums you up. Have a really good think about what to put in and what to leave out.
Three paragraphs that roughly outline what you enjoy doing, what stimulates you, maybe a little bit about where you come from.
If you’re funny, be funny, and trust that the people who don’t find you amusing wouldn’t have laughed in real life either. But don’t try and stuff your bio with jokes if that’s not you.
Biggest tip? Don’t say anything you can’t back up later on. Don’t misrepresent your height, for example, as it will only cause a lot of awkwardness when you finally meet in the flesh.
There’s a big difference between 5 ft 2 and 6 ft 2!
9 WAYS TO KNOW IF SOMEONE IS ATTRACTED TO YOU – CLICK HERE
DON’T: your dating profile is not a job application!!
Okay, so you’ve matched with someone you like, now what’s the best way to start a conversation?
Keep it simple. Before you message them take a look over there bio and no doubt there will be something in there that you can go in with, it shows that you have taken the time to try and learn a little something about them and it’s friendly.
Don’t go in full guns blazing saying anything derogatory or sexual. Play it cool!
You’re trying to engage with another human being here.
Try asking a non-invasive, open question. You’ve set the tone then for a nice, normal, relaxed conversation. Winning!
Don’t get hooked!!!
You’ve probably seen some of your mates swiping willy nilly (literally!) It’s not a good idea to spend hours a day on dating apps – and not just because you’ll be neglecting other aspects of your life (the real life options).
It’s been suggested that any more than 20 minutes or so on a dating app can start to mess with the positive vibe in your head. Don’t go to deep!
Hop in, and hop back out!
Be prepared for a little disappointment
It’s true. Online dating can offer hope, miracles even, fairy tale stories! But it can also be a source of hurt.
You must enter the world of online dating with the possibility of disappointment in mind.
If you’re someone that gets hurt easily, and you’re thin-skinned and can’t take the feeling of being shot
down… it might not be for you.
If you’re going to do it, say to yourself ‘I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, and I know if I go on dates,
some of them are going to be fucking terrible, and that’s ok”.
How to arrange your date
In-app conversations are great and all, it’s where we start that connection with out new possible match, but it’s really important (if you’re both keen) to try and organise a meet-up as soon as you both feel that connection!
The more you chat online, the more likely it can draw out and become a bit old, awkward or
boring. Get face to face! Human connection trumps, always..
So, what’s a good rule of thumb to follow?
Obviously it can differ, gauge your new beau and trust your intuition. It’s been proven that the longer you talk to someone online, the less likely that chat will translate into a date.
I’d say five days maximum, and maybe three conversations before you spin that into a date, you
need to act quite quickly.
A good tip is to take things slowly, with a short initial catchup, rather than anything too serious.
Ask to meet for a coffee or just one drink. Don’t go all in.
Also, offer to go somewhere that’s convenient to them, and not somewhere that’s near your house. You’ll both know within a minute if you fancy one another, and nobody wants to be on a three-hour date with somebody they have zero interest in.
She might feel more comfortable in a local hangout too!
Don’t give up hope
Some people find true love simply, for others, it’s a bit more of a life path and mission. And sometimes we even have to find ourselves before we can find that special someone.
Just remember that none of those people you’ve had to churn through will matter when you’re sitting in a restaurant opposite someone who is perfect for you. That’s your goal!