“There’s more support than there used to be. Unfortunately a lot of people suffer in silence” Says Tamara Rose, Showgirl.
The Adult Entertainment Industry isn’t as glamorous as one would expect. Like with any work, it has it’s advantages and disadvantages. Some advantages are; being able to set your own work hours and have the ability to make large amounts of money in short periods of time. While disadvantages look like, being sexually assaulted in the workplace, no sick leave, stigmatisation and lack of support and resources from legal authorities.
“I don’t know what’s worse… what we go through or the fact there’s no support out there” Says Molly – Ex Stripper.
In the interview Molly speaks about the difficult situations she faces at work and how innapropriate customers can be towards workers.
“We put up with a lot of stuff, I was naked for a show and someone grabs me privately – If that happened on the street or in a nightclub, it would be a different story.. We clearly state the rules”
An issue that is notorious for workers in Adult Entertainment is inappropriate actions from clients. Some clients believe they have full access to you to do whatever they like and often push the boundaries by inappropriate groping, slapping and sometimes worse. But the fact is, you’re not buying a person. It’s a transaction for a specific and unique service that is particular for each worker.
“When I was touched inappropriately, where is the help for me? I didn’t ask to be touched down there just because I do what I do for work.” – Molly
Sex workers face a wide range of barriers to accessing justice, both as victims of crime and when charged with crimes. Criminalisation of sex work, stigma and discrimination, and police corruption and violence limit the reporting of crimes to the police, the successful prosecution and conviction of perpetrators, and access to victim compensation and support services.
In 2017, Molly created a girls advice group for women in the Industry. Not very long after, 2 girls from Queensland were kidnapped. Thankfully, one of the women who was kidnapped was in touch with a girl in Molly’s advice group. Molly managed to get information on the girls location and contacted the police and the girls were rescued. “There needs to be something more than an advice group, We can only help each other so much.”
“People say, that’s part of the job, just cop it” – Molly
Sex workers around the world are frequently excluded from protection of employment legislation and labour dispute mechanisms and experience discrimination in civil courts.
“It shouldn’t be that way, we’re all human and this my body. If I say don’t touch it, don’t touch it”
“When a sex worker is a victim, whether they’re a woman, transgender or a man, the main challenge is the legal system. They often don’t care about our lives. The system doesn’t work with immediacy or speed because of prejudice, stigma and discrimination.”
ASOCIACIÓN GOOVER, ECUADOR
Mindset Strategies with Kylie Bee, Exotic Empowerment Coach and Dancer.
“Create trust within yourself, because if you say you’re not going to do something and then you go ahead and do it – the trust within gets compromised. Never say never – say, not right now.” – Kylie Bee
Self-trust is not trusting yourself to know all the answers, nor is it believing that you will always do the right things. It’s having the conviction that you will be kind and respectful to yourself regardless of the outcome of your efforts.
The concept of self-trust is a solid belief in one’s own integrity. There’s a difference between living a life based on self-trust and living one that isn’t. When we look at instances of people who are self-trusting, we see that they make decisions with clarity and confidence. They are interdependent in a healthy way, meaning they are neither dependent or hyper-independent.
“Once I step out of work, my stage persona stays and does not enter back into my real world. As soon as I step out those doors, everything gets left behind and I’m me. Likewise, I do not bring personal life matters into my workplace” – Kylie Bee
An Interview excerpt with Kylie;
“As I’ve grown in this industry, so has my confidence. What I noticed was, women and men in the industry were coming from toxic situations. They would say they didn’t feel empowered and had a lack of sexual energy for themselves and their partners outside of work.
Hearing these stories lead me to be a sex coach which has lead me down the rabbit hole of what sexual energy is and how to empower that energy. My mission now is to guide people in the industry to know that it doesn’t matter what you do for a job, as long as you’re coming from an empowered place and you create your own empowerment, not dependant on external validation. It changes that game. Sex can be celebrated and come from a beautiful place!”
“I complete myself. I don’t need someone to tell me I’m good because I’ve already told myself” – Kylie Bee
“I don’t need makeup to look beautiful, but for me it’s kind of like a little ritual, I like doing it! I say to myself, ‘I don’t need this to look good, this is just fun!” – Kylie Bee
One last piece of advice from Kylie Bee
“One last piece of advice I’d give to anyone in the industry is the simple task which is meditation. it’s free, all it is, is conscious breathing! And also, if you need to talk to a therapist, go and do that!”