Seeing a Sex Worker isn’t just about the sex for some people. Seeing a sex worker can be a session of catharsis, where the worker holds an intimate space of unconditional acceptance and nurturing.
A worker and client dynamic is more often an emotional and mental understanding allowing a client feel seen, heard and understood. Sex workers do a fabulous job. They have many skills such as sex educator, pleasure giver, counsellor, companion & sexual health promoter. Sex work is a fascinating job. The essence of people’s desires and needs are on display. Depending on the sex worker and the client, the job can be vary from extremely intimate or professionally aloof.
Sex Worker Stigma
In Australia, there are many false and unfavourable perceptions regarding sex workers. There are several deluded images of female sexual coercion, desperation, and drug addiction. However, many people who work in the sex industry in Australia, are mentally stable part-time workers supplementing their income or studying at university. Most do not have a drug addiction and care for their health as evidence by their lower rates of sexually transmitted infections compared to the regular population.
Many sex workers enjoy their job. Unfortunately, sex work is stigmatised in our society. As a result, most sex workers keep their jobs hidden for fear of repercussions. It’s often a disappointment that one feels like they can’t share the amazing truth about the adventurous life as a sex worker.
Sex Workers See A Lot Of Clients Who Have Mental Health Issues
Research suggests that upwards of 6 million men are affected by depression every year. Suicide remains the seventh leading cause of death among men in America. While it’s impossible to gauge exactly what percentage of that demographic frequents sex workers, the experiences of those in the field can offer some insight.
A worker who has asked to remain anonymous told CherryDTV that the clients who request party/ individual bookings are usually the ones struggling most with loneliness. And people with depression aren’t the only neurodivergent individuals sex workers encounter on the job. Those suffering from anxiety, a common accompaniment to depression, show up frequently. They also see a lot of people who fall on the autistic spectrum. In fact, workers say they see men who fall into the latter demographic relatively often.
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Sex Workers Don’t Just Have Sex All Day
Throughout her career, she has encountered clients who have been pointed to the brothel by concerned friends, or family. She even knows of a few who have come by at the suggestion of a therapist. Though, not all mental health professionals would advise that kind of thing.
Certainly, there are individuals that struggle with social anxiety, which prevents them from finding a real-life partner, and in those cases engaging with a sex worker can be both therapeutic and pleasurable. Unfortunately there are a certain few in the field that shy away from providing the emotional labor that clients demand.
There’s a big misconception that at the brothel, workers just have sex all day. There are a lot of people who come in to work out some serious emotional issues. It’s really a good chunk of what workers do.
“I love my job and there are certain parties that make you feel like we’re actually making a difference in the world — that we’re actually doing good things and not just providing a good time. And that can be super fulfilling.” Says our anonymous informant.
Professional Dominatrix, Mistress Arabella shares her view?
Being a Sex Worker myself in the realm of BDSM there certainly wasn’t a lack of men who came to vent. Most clients I encountered came to confess their desires with an expectation to be shunned and punished. To their surprise they were always met with acceptance and understanding. My sessions allowed for men to accept and feel good about nurturing their wild, kinky side. As well as something they could be proud of and curious to explore deeper.
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Majority of my sessions as a Professional Dominatrix were clients who enjoyed the company of an intelligent and witty woman who loved to get her feet massaged. They would tell how being naked infant of a woman allowed them to experience complete vulnerability, allowing them to feel safe being emotionally vulnerable too.
There have been countless times a naked man with pegs attached to his nipples with a plug up his butt has broke down crying on my shoulder. And when that happens, I think “oh yes, this is good, this is exactly what he needed.” Because sometimes a person really needs to be pushed to their limits to be able to see their strengths.
They would walk out of my dungeon space feeling empowered, revitalised, cleansed and accomplished. Being a sex worker in my opinion can be one of the most fulfilling jobs. As long as you set yourself boundaries and protocols to work within!
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Why Do Men Vent To Sex Workers?
We all need that one or two people who see us for who we are beneath the mask and still love us. Unfortunately, most guys do not have even one such person in their lives. A friend with whom they can be entirely open.
As a result, they seek it out and find it among sex workers. They pay to have a space where they can be themselves. A safe space to discuss problems without fear of being judged or criticised. Men have been conditioned not to feel. They believe that their worth is determined by their physique, money, or mojo. Muscle mass is limited. Money can be difficult to come by. As a result, people turn to sex to make themselves feel good enough.
Sex is the only time they get to take off the mask and let go. To stop trying to be so strong and engage in intimacy. While women need to feel connected emotionally to get physical, most men need to connect physically to get emotional.
Men have a lot fewer healthy outlets when they are feeling down. They are afraid to show weakness; to reach out and connect. So they bottle it up and act out, often with horrible consequences.
Studies on why men go to sex workers show that men who are deeply rooted in a healthy community, who feel close to others aren’t the ones that commit suicide. The way we teach our boys to relate to their feelings and to others is directly contributing to the prevalence of the sex trade and leading to violence and suicide. Men need to be able to share their feelings and experiences with others.
We must address the conditioning of men. We must stop telling them to man up or stop crying. We must encourage men to share their experiences, mistakes, learning, emotions, and have empathy.
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The Importance of Connection
We pay for help all the time. We pay for car repairs. We pay for housework. We pay to have someone make our coffee. We pay for childcare. We don’t pay for the connection? Men would have a much easier time if they did, and perhaps if this was encouraged then Sex Workers might not have so many clients.
