Being a Sex Worker is a job that is emotionally, mentally and physically demanding. It takes a lot of energy to emotionally nurture someone, keep the conversation stimulating and physically perform activities to a level of real satisfaction. As a Sex Worker we are continuously giving our energy away, so it is absolutely imperative we find methods of regenerating our energy so that we can continue working, making money and providing this very important service.
The most common problem that causes burnout is stress. When one is stressed a person’s energy becomes scattered causing a list of negative symptoms. So we have to learn how to ground ourselves and bring our energy back into our bodies! (daily) No matter which kind of Sex Worker you are, these methods of avoiding burnout will help you stay ready for action. And allow you to stay emotionally, mentally and physically healthy. If you find these methods useful, please share them with your Sex Worker friends!
What Is Burnout?
Burnout is a state of emotional, mental and physical exhaustion caused by stress. It is when you feel like you can’t be bothered with anything. Burnout makes you feel like you can’t cope with the simple responsibilities of life, let alone work. You feel utterly overwhelmed, tired, frustrated, tense and even cynical and anxious sometimes. All you want to do is crawl into bed and forget about the world.
The negative effects of burnout spill over into every area of life including your home and social life. Burnout can also cause long-term changes to your body that make you vulnerable to illnesses like colds and flu. Because of its many consequences, it’s important to deal with and prevent burnout right away.
How To Know If You’re On The Path To Burn Out
Burnout is a gradual process. It doesn’t happen overnight, but it can creep up on you. The signs and symptoms are subtle at first, but become worse as time goes on. Think of the early symptoms as red flags that something is wrong that needs to be addressed. If you pay attention and actively reduce your stress, you can prevent a major breakdown. If you ignore them, you’ll probably burn out.
- Feeling tired and drained most of the time.
- Lowered Immunity, Frequent illnesses
- Frequent headaches or muscles pain
- Change of appetite or sleep habits
- Sense of failure and self-doubt
- Loss of motivation
- Feeling helpless, trapped, and defeated
- Detachment, feeling alone in the world
- Increasingly cynical and negative outlook
- Decreased satisfaction and sense of accomplishment
- Withdrawing from responsibilities
- Isolating yourself from others
- Procrastinating, taking longer to get things done
- Using food, drugs, or alcohol to cope
- Taking out your frustrations on others
Let’s Deal With Burnout
Whether you recognise the warning signs of impending burnout or you’re already past the breaking point, trying to push through the exhaustion and continuing as you have been will only cause further emotional and physical damage. Now is the time to pause and change direction by learning how you can help yourself overcome burnout and feel healthy and positive again.
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1. Reach Out To Others
Social contact is nature’s antidote to stress and talking face to face with a good listener is one of the fastest ways to calm your nervous system and relieve stress. The person you talk to doesn’t have to be able to “fix” your stressors; they just have to be a good listener, someone who’ll listen attentively without becoming distracted or expressing judgment.
2. Limit Your Contact With Negative People
Hanging out with negative-minded people who do nothing but complain will only drag down your mood and outlook. If you have to work with a negative person, try to limit the amount of time you spend together.
3. Reframe The Way You Look At Work
Even though some days of work are a lot better than others, try to find some value in the work you’re doing. Focus on how your role helps others feel good and that you’re a much needed service. Focus on the parts of work that you enjoy, like the social girl time, when your favourite types of clients come in or when you get paid. Changing your attitude towards work can help you regain purpose and control.
4. Reevaluate Your Priorities
Burnout is an undeniable sign that something important in your life is not working. Take time to think about your hopes, goals, and dreams. Are you neglecting something that is truly important to you? This can be an opportunity to rediscover what really makes you happy and to slow down and give yourself time to rest, reflect, and heal.
5. Set Boundaries
Don’t overextend yourself. Learn how to say “no” to requests of your time and services. If you find this difficult, remind yourself that saying “no” allows you to say “yes” to the commitments you want to make.
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6. Nourish Your Creative Side
Creativity is a powerful antidote to burnout. Try something new, start a fun project, or resume a favorite hobby. Choose activities that have nothing to do with work or whatever is causing your stress.
7. Set Aside Relaxation Time
This would have to be one of the most important methods to avoid burnout. Do this DAILY. Yoga, meditation, and deep breathing activate the body’s relaxation response, a state of restfulness that is the opposite of the stress response. When we are stressed, our bodies restrict blood flow to the organs. This can lead to heart, digestion and even skin issues. My favourite breathing method is by Wim Hof and his exercises are backed by science.
8. Make Exercise A Daily Priority
When you’re burnout exercise is the last thing you feel like doing, I get it. But such a powerful antidote to burn out. Exercise energises the body and relives stress fast and boost your mood. Aim to exercise for 30 minutes or more per day or break that up into short, 10-minute bursts of activity. A 10-minute walk can improve your mood for two hours.
Rhythmic exercise, where you move both your arms and legs, is a hugely effective way to lift your mood, increase energy, sharpen focus, and relax both the mind and body. Try walking, running, weight training, swimming, martial arts, or even dancing.To maximize stress relief, instead of continuing to focus on your thoughts, focus on your body and how it feels as you move: the sensation of your feet hitting the ground, for example, or the wind on your skin.
9. Eat Healthy
Food is fuel. What you put into your body has a significant impact on your mood and level of energy. It takes a lot of energy to digest foods, so if you’re eating complex processed foods and wonder why you’re tired all the time, you’ve got your answer. Minimise sugar and refined carbs. You may crave sugary snacks or comfort foods such as pasta or hot chips, but these high-carbohydrate foods quickly lead to a crash in mood and energy.
Reduce your high intake of foods that can adversely affect your mood, such as caffeine, trans-fats, and foods with chemical preservatives or hormones. Eat more Omega-3 fatty acids to give your mood a boost. The best sources are fatty fish salmon, mackerel, seaweed, flaxseed, avocado and raw nuts. Avoid nicotine. Smoking when you’re feeling stressed may seem calming, but nicotine is a powerful stimulant, leading to higher, not lower, levels of anxiety. Drink alcohol in moderation. Alcohol temporarily reduces worry, but too much can cause anxiety as it wears off.
10. Regular Therapy
Seeing a Sex Worker friendly mental health professional regularly, even if you have great mental health is beneficial. They are a non-judgmental objective person who helps you see things with a positive outlook. Therapists can also help you define your goals and help you design action steps for accomplishment.
An After-Thought For The Sex Worker
The main thing to focus on if you’re experiencing symptoms of burnout is to learn how to relax. When we’re stressed we often don’t feel like we should be taking the time of to focus on our needs but in reality that’s exactly what we need to do in order to solve the problem. Being a Sex Worker has us being so outwardly focused on other people we forget to nurture ourselves too. Treat yourself how you would treat someone who was really dear to you. Treat yourself, pamper yourself and do all the nice things for yourself, with yourself that allows you to relax and recharge. You’ve got this!