Emotions are the most present, pressing and sometimes painful force in our lives. Humans are driven day by day by our emotions. We take chances because we’re excited for new prospects. We cry because we’ve been hurt and we make sacrifices because we love. Without a doubt, our emotions dictate our thoughts, intentions and actions with superior authority to our rational minds. But when we act on our emotions too quickly, or we act on the wrong kinds of emotions, we often make decisions that we later regret. Emotional Control was never taught to the majority of us as children and now it’s up to our adult selves!
Our feelings can alter between dangerous extremes. Veer too far to the left and you’re bordering on rage. Steer too much to the right and you’re in a state of euphoria. As with many other aspects of life, emotions are best met with a sense of balance and logical perspective. This is not to say that we should stop ourselves from falling in love or jumping for joy after great news. These truly are the finer things in life. It is negative emotions that must be handled with extreme care.
Emotional Control & Negative Emotions
Negative emotions, like anger, jealousy or cynicism, tend to spiral out of control. Especially immediately after they’ve been triggered. In time, these sorts of emotions can grow like weeds, slowly conditioning the mind to function on negative feelings and dominating daily life.
Have you ever met a person who’s consistently angry or hostile? They weren’t born that way. But they allowed certain emotions to stir within them for so long that they became inherent feelings arising all too frequently.
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Having a build up of negative emotions over time effects us mentally and physically. The tension caused by stress, anger and other negative emotions can weaken the immune system causing one to be more susceptible to illness. Mentally, negative emotions stop us from being decisive, motivated, loving/loved and intimate.
So how can we avoid operating from negative states and master our emotions under triggering circumstances?
6 EASY STEPS FOR EMOTIONAL CONTROL
1. Don’t React Right Away
Reacting immediately to emotional triggers can be an immense mistake. It is guaranteed that you’ll say or do something you’ll later regret. Before reacting emotionally, recognise that you’ve been triggered and take a deep breath. Continue to breathe deeply for five minutes and consciously relax any tension in your body. You can remove yourself from the scene to do this, in fact, I recommend it. You can say “I’m emotionally reacting, I need to calm myself down before I respond.” When your heart rate has returned to normal, then act.
2. Ask For Divine Guidance
Faith is our saving grace in the of darkest moments. No matter your creed, developing a healthy relationship with the divine world will help you easily turn obstacles into opportunities. This is because when you believe in a higher force, you also believe in the power of divine intervention to show you what you must do. And teach you why something is happening and even save you from a certain unwanted situation. When burdened with emotion, close your eyes, envision a positive solution to your problem, and ask the universe to clearly show you the best path forward.
3. Find A Healthy Outlet
Now that you’re learning to manage your emotions, you’ll need to release them in a healthy way. Emotions should never be kept bottled up, you’ll implode! Call or visit someone you trust and vent. Hearing an opinion other than your own broadens your awareness. Keep a journal and transfer your emotions from your inner self onto the paper. Many people find it helpful to engage in aggressive exercises, such as kickboxing or martial arts, to discharge their feelings. But even dancing or going for a run can be just as therapeutic. Others meditate and chant to enter a tranquil state of being.
4. See The Bigger Picture
Everything happening in our lives, whether good or bad, serves a higher purpose. Having wisdom means being able to see past the moment and discover the greater meaning of any given situation. You may not understand it in the beginning, but as time goes by, you’ll begin to see the bigger picture falling into perfect order. Even in the midst of an emotionally upsetting moment, trust that there exists an ultimate purpose which you will soon come to comprehend.
5. Replace Your Thoughts
Negative emotions bind us to reoccurring negative thoughts which create a cycle of negative patterns. Whenever you are confronted with a negative emotion which is makes you feel or think something bad – force it out of your mind and replace it with a different thought. Imagine the ideal resolution to your problem and focus only on that. You can also think about someone who makes you happy or remember an event that makes you smile and laugh. Negative emotions have a stronger magnetism than positive, so you may have to think of 3 or 5 memories that make you feel good before you feel better.
6. Forgive Your Emotional Triggers
This is a big one because your emotional triggers may be your friends, family members, yourself or all of the above. You may feel a sudden wave of anger when your friend “does that thing she does,” or a stab of self-loathing when you remember something you could have done differently. But when you forgive, you detach. You let go of the resentment, the jealousy and the fury lingering within you. You allow people to be who they are without the need for escalating emotions. As you forgive, you will find yourself disassociating from the negative emotions and more attached to your inner, content being.
In The End
A constant reminder of our zealous nature, emotions surge through us at every second of the day! But we often take wrong actions when negative emotions and perceptions filter through our mind without restraint. To avoid the burn of acting out during an emotional upsurge, take these simple steps to calm your heightened spirit and quiet your uneasy mind. When the moment has passed, you’ll be grateful you were able to be the master of your emotions. Training your brain in this way will keep you more relaxed and living a longer and happier life. You deserve it after all!