I don’t care if you’re dating for the first time or have been married for 10 years and have tiny carbon copies of yourself running around the home. If there’s one thing I’ve learned about women and I’ve learned a lot because I am one, is that we all enjoy romance and romantic gestures. But here’s the thing: romance isn’t limited to the big screen. You don’t have to rush through the airport or hold a boom box at her window to express your affection. You have the option of bypassing the field full of flowers.
When in a healthy state of mind and with the right intentions, all women want to know if you care for them. Just like I’m sure you’d agree you want from them, as well. As someone who has had a partner who wasn’t inherently romantic, I understand that this element of partnerships isn’t easy for everyone. I’ve assisted my prior partner in navigating this new experience so that we could both express love in the ways we desire. And, much to his surprise (and hopefully yours), it’s the little things that count. So relieve yourself of all that stress; romance is a lot easier than you think. Small gestures may make a big difference.
1. Public Hand Holding
What could be more romantic than announcing to the world that the person next to you is the one you’re dating? It’s a lovely way to express that you don’t mind if everyone knows you’re together or, more importantly, that you want to be near to them.
And I understand that PDA isn’t for everyone. Hand holding might be the ideal compromise between a partner who isn’t disturbed by public displays of affection and a partner who is. Furthermore, if physical touch is one of your love languages, hand-holding satisfies that urge for skin-to-skin contact.
2. Remember Important Dates
I don’t mean this in a creepy sense, nor am I referring to her friend’s birthdays. Consider this a general notion of remembering dates that are significant to her but not necessarily to you. Your lover will be surprised if you remember specifics from important events. I’m sure she doesn’t expect you to know about her mother’s birthday or the one-year anniversary of the start of her company. So if you suggest it a week in advance, you’ll get huge romance points. And, of course, if you’re unsure about these dates, don’t be hesitant to ask.
3. Invite Her Friends
A woman needs to know that you accept her and her friends as well. It can be difficult to fit in quality friendship time as individuals become older, particularly if they are in a relationship. So why not help your partner relax by planning arrangements that include her friends as well?
You’re letting her know that you accept all parts of her life by doing so. It will also allow you to form bonds with the people closest to her. Simply arrange a fun activity, such as a day at the beach or a night out, and let her know you’d want her friends to join too.
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4. Express Your Feelings
There’s nothing more romantic than expressing your feelings to a female. Men have been taught to suppress their emotions because women want “a man.” But that notion is outdated, and what a woman truly wants to know about you is all of you, including your feelings. If expressing feelings is difficult for you, try in front of the mirror. Make a list of your thoughts on a piece of paper. When it comes to practicing vulnerability with your partner, start small. It will be a breath of fresh air to express your feelings to your lover. Women are interested in knowing how you feel about them. Don’t make the mistake of assuming they already know.
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5. Send Her Texts
During the day, sending someone a text demonstrates that you’re thinking about them, and who wouldn’t want to hear that? A simple “I hope you’re having a wonderful day” may go a long way towards showing your care for your partner.
Of course, I’m not suggesting that you send these texts every thirty minutes. I’m also not claiming that every lady will appreciate such a gesture. But what I’m getting at is that if you want to be more romantic, it’s worth a shot! Because if a woman likes you, you’re likely to cross her mind throughout the day. It’s comforting to know that feeling is mutual.
6. Get To Know Her Past
It’s difficult for women to talk about their history. Many women are afraid that if they start talking about their difficult experiences, people would flee. Not to mention the fact that individuals rarely ask in the first place. It means the world to your partner when you provide a safe environment for her to open up and show that you care. To this day, the fact that my previous partner did this, is one of the first things that comes to mind when I think of him.
After a day at work, my previous boyfriend would often come home with dinner or a yummy treat. It made my heart instantly melt and made me feel thought of. It was a gesture I’d love to reciprocate. Your surprise may be baked goods or flowers you picked up on your way home from work for your sweetheart. My point is that romantic surprises don’t have to be huge or extravagant. Choose something that is more practical for you to accomplish on an occasional basis and will not hurt your wallet every time you do it.
8. Validate Her Feelings
You don’t dismiss one other’s feelings as “overdramatic” or “irrational” in a good relationship. Regardless of whether you agree with them or not, someone feels what they feel. You can demonstrate that you care about your partner’s feelings by validating her emotional experiences.
When she gets home and tells you how hectic her day was, this is an example of this. “That seems extremely difficult, and it’s understandable that you’re stressed out, I’d be stressed too,” would be a supportive and validating response.
9. Let her Have The Last Slice or The Last Bite
What could be more romantic than giving a woman the final pizza slice? Not a single thing. She knows you want it, but giving up that last tasty piece for her enjoyment is the ultimate form of romance. You could think that adding this to the list is a foolish gesture, but it fits in with the overall idea of the article: it’s the little gestures that count! Relationships flourish with daily interactions, not huge plans made once every three months. So, by allowing your partner to have what you want from time to time is incredibly sweet and very romantic.
Romance isn’t complicated nor scary. While movies and novels portray it that way, reality is a little different. Small gestures may make a big difference.
So give these suggestions a shot and inject some passion into your relationships. Also, don’t be hesitant to ask your partner to be romantic towards you! After all, romance isn’t just intended for women.