It’s 2022 and strangely taking it up the anal play is still seen as taboo by some. However, it seems that this is changing! Anal sex is most popular among couples under the age of 45. According to a national survey conducted by the National Health Statistics Reports, 45% of women and 44% of men had experienced anal intercourse with an opposite-sex partner.
Anal and vaginal orgasms are said to be comparable (same rhythmic pelvic floor movement, different body areas aroused), and with sexual experimentation on the rise, it is easy to see why so many more people are keen to explore anal play.
However, for some, anal play/sex, is still seen as a bit frightening. Many individuals are afraid of the possibilities of pain and discomfort, and some have been traumatised from partners who have not adequately cleaned themselves. But everyone has a unique story and it may be difficult to figure out what is what as a newbie which can make things particularly daunting. So, here’s all you need to know about anal play.
What Does Anal Feel Like?
Whatever you choose to penetrate yourself with, you will feel every inch of it. The nerve endings in the anus are extremely sensitive and can cause sensory overload, and it may be rather intense, which is why you should take your time. If you feel pain, stop and recall the four guidelines below:
Start Small, Slow & Relaxed.
There is no need to jump the gun with anal play. During masturbation, start small use a finger. Then, gradually increase the size of your toys before getting down with someone. Anal penetration isn’t all about penises and dildos, after all.
It would be ideal if you also took it very slowly and relaxed. In your mind, imagine a suitable tempo and then go half that speed at first. Even for seasoned pros, anal sex requires a build-up. So take your time, take a big breath, and once you’re at ease, you may increase the speed and size. Allow your body to tell you what feels good.
Lube Is Your Best Mate.
The anus, unlike the vagina, does not self-lubricate, so make sure to use lubrication while playing with it. Don’t be afraid to keep adding as you go. Friction is your enemy and can cause tears, so make sure you’re drenched in lubrication to reduce your chances of being in discomfort.
Accept That Accidents May Occur.
Slip-ups and messes are inherent due to the nature of the action, yet in the midst of the heat and excitement, no one seems to mind. Even if you wash or use an enema, there comes a point when you have to realise that there’s a big possibility of excrement being involved. Don’t worry about that; sex isn’t the most sterile of activities and you can run to the shower.
The Position You Choose Matters.
Because not all sex positions are made equal, make sure you pick one that is comfortable for both of you. “Doggy” is the most common anal sex position, however, many professional Dominatrixes say that lying on the back is optimal for beginners because they can just put their feet up and relax. Feel free to try different things and find what works best for you.
Even if you’re performing anal without a partner, the position you pick is important. Some individuals like lying on their side with one leg up, while others prefer lying on their back. Don’t be frightened to try something new!
How To Prepare
Prepping for anal play is pretty simple and there are a few different types of enemas you get depending on the type of play you’re expecting to do.
It’s a good idea to drink lots of water eat small meals for a few days before play, as a way of helping your insides be easily cleaned.
Option 1 – Fleet Enema.
Fleet enemas are best when you’re engaging in light anal play with small toys like butt plugs, fingers, tongues and small dildos.
It’s very simple to use. It has a screw off nozzle and you fill the bulb with Luke warm water and then screw the nozzle back on. Then you can lay on your side and slowly insert the lubricated nozzle into the anus and expel all the water. Hold the water in for a few minutes if you can and release into the toilet.
You may want to repeat this process a few times or until the water comes out clear.
A fleet style enema like this one is safe to use regularly and won’t disrupt your regular flow of digestion.
Option 2 – Bag Enema.
The reusable enema bag is a really affordable and practical option. You can use it for small or large clean-outs. It comes with easy to use instructions and it’s more sterile than the fleet option.
Please be warned that regular use of large enemas can disrupt your good gut bacteria and cause weakened bowels. Only use large enemas before big anal play sessions. Eating small high-fibre meals a few days before anal play will help ensure clean insides.
Option 3 – Shower Head Enema
The great thing about the Clean Stream enema is that you can temporarily or permanently attach it to your shower. It’s stainless steel and very easy to use and will give you the deepest clean for hardcore anal play lovers. Just remember to use luke warm water and lube the nozzle!
bacteria and cause weakened bowels. Only use large enemas before big anal play sessions. Eating small high-fibre meals a few days before anal play will help ensure clean insides.
Explore And Enjoy!
You never know what you’re going to get unless you try it. Anal play can be uncomfortable, but it should never be painful; if it is, stop doing it! It’s OK to be nervous; yet, with proper mental and physical preparation, you should be alright. It’s important to remember that vaginal intercourse too can be painful if you don’t take proper precautions, so be careful!